There’s a saying, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” While I may suggest it isn’t entirely true (see side note 2 in Choosing Your Surfing Style), the point is well taken: you can’t expect to see a change, unless you make a change. (Surprise, right?) Read more
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I recently listened to a Freakonomics podcast that really resonated with me. It was all about saying, “I don’t know,” and why that is so hard for many people. First let’s think about why it’s so hard, and then I want to dive into why we SHOULD say it more often.
Why Saying You Don’t Know is So Hard
As is the case with a lot of hard things, I believe fear keeps us from admitting that we don’t know a lot of the time, especially fear of what people will think. Read more
Now my grandma, she hated swearing. If she watched a movie with any swear words, she’d say, “There’s absolutely no reason they have to use that kind of language¹.” ² As a kid, I couldn’t argue with her, but as an adult, I saw A Few Good Men. Jack Nicholson wouldn’t have won an academy award for his role in A Few Good Men had he not adorned his lines with such colorful and acrid language.³
There is, however, an artistry to proper swearing. I like swearing at work, and I like swearing on stage, but I’m disappointed in myself whenever my usage is vapid. I love the swearing in Pulp Fiction because its use of expletives is nearly poetic. I didn’t get on board with the swearing in The Wolf of Wall Street because its use of expletives quickly became inane. Read more
And the ideal is not ‘having it all figured out.’ There’s no reason to feel bad or punish yourself for not being fully organized. Chaos is a natural part of the picture — you can’t pull order from chaos without a little chaos. Which is why it’s okay to deliberately mess things up now and then. Or as we say in Thriveal parlance: blow things up.
When asked the question, “What does your firm want to be when it grows up,” it’s okay to say, “I don’t know.” Discovery really best happens from the side rather than head-on. You really can’t plan “a-ha” moments, or else it’s not really a discovery. Discovery is, by nature, unexpected. All you can do is put yourself in different places or situations where it might occur and remain open to it happening, without compulsion. A little trust in Providence doesn’t hurt either. Read more