“You two seem to make a great team.” Jason and I have heard this more than a few times. While we have only been working together in our businesses for a few years, we have made a pretty great team in our marriage for over 19 years so far. Long before I was officially a team member at Blumer CPAs or THRIVEal, I was involved as Jason’s unofficial coach when he needed to work through a decision.
I really enjoy working with my husband, but I get such a mixed reaction from others about whether or not they would want to work with their spouses. When I looked for other articles about couples working together, I also found a mixed set of results. One article basically said the quickest route to divorce is to work with your spouse. Others said that a huge percentage of small businesses are actually run by married couples.
Maybe it just depends on the couple.
I really do believe opposites attract. Where the husband is weakest, the wife usually is strong. It’s just as true the other way around. Jason and I are very different in our personality styles, likes, dislikes, comfort level with risk, strengths, and weaknesses. He may be the CPA, but I am better with personal finances. (I love Mvelopes, by the way.) Still, I have learned that when he has what seems to be a crazy idea, it’s best to let him try it out. He is not as afraid of new or risky ideas as I am. What seems weird to me is often the next big thing in our lives. THRIVEal was one of those wild ideas at one time. So was the THRIVEcast.
I love how Jonathan Godwin described working with his wife, Meghan. “The feeling of security I get knowing that someone else in my business cares as much about it as I do, and is as invested in it as I am, is something that I never experienced until my wife came to work with me at my firm. I wouldn’t trade that for an office full of CPAs. She had no experience in the industry, but she has business experience and an insight that is unparalleled by anyone I have ever worked with or for. She knows what I want before I do. Our work ethics are exactly the same, so it’s a match made in heaven. I am so fortunate to have her with me here. Plus we get to have lunch together most days.”
Scott Scharf had a similar sentiment about working with his wife Patti, “It’s fun collaborating with someone you like and respect.”
I would add that Jason and I need to work together now. Our businesses keep us both so busy that work is one of the ways we can know each other well. We know the same people, have the same goals, and have that sense of working for something bigger than either of us could achieve on own own. We get excited over our victories and comfort each other over our failures. I think I know Jason better now than I ever have. And he is totally amused when this former school teacher listens to business books and podcasts on my iPhone.
If you are a business owner, your spouse is involved. Or at least impacted by your decisions. If you don’t work together, have you considered how your spouse might use his or her strengths to help you? You don’t have to add your better half as a full partner, but don’t overlook the one person that will care as much as you do about your success!